Saying Goodbye Gets Easier
Here's What To Do
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When you're leaving me at a new place or with new people (like at a new school or with a new babysitter), let me spend some time with you there first.
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Keep good-byes brief, and let me know when you'll return. Always say goodbye when you leave, don't sneak out of the room even if it seems easier at first.
3
Let me take something special from home with me (like my special blanket, stuffed animal, or toy).
4
Try not to leave me when I'm sleeping. If you need to, tell me in advance who will be there when I wake up.
Put PEER Into Action
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Pause:
- Give me a great big hug goodbye!
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Engage:
- "After you finish your lunch I'll be back to pick you up."
- "Have a great nap! Remember, when you wake up Grandma will be here to play with you. I'll be back soon after that!"
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Encourage:
- Act cheerful and confident when you leave. Tell me I'll have a fun time. When you act like it is not a big deal, you'll help calm my worries.
- Remind me that you will always come back.
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Reflect:
- Am I still having strong reactions to saying goodbye to you? I might need more time to develop trust and feel safe.
As your child grows...
They will be able to separate from parents and caregivers more easily.