Trying to Delay Bedtime
Here's What To Do
Know that it's normal for me to begin asking for one more kiss, one more story, or anything else to delay bedtime. Sometimes I just want to keep having fun. If I'm staying awake for an hour or more, try adjusting my bedtime half an hour later.
Keep my bedtime routine consistent, and try to put me to sleep at the same time each night. Give me time warnings as we get closer to bedtime.
If I try to delay, you can let me do that one last thing, but be firm. After I complete my request, firmly explain that it's time for bed. Give me a kiss and leave the room.
After you've put me to bed, do not go back in the room. If I get out of bed, quickly return me to my room and don't give me any other attention.
Put PEER Into Action
Pause:
- Take a deep breath. It's easier to be consistent with me if you're able to stay calm.
Engage:
- "Bedtime is in 15 minutes, so we have time for 3 books before you get into bed."
- "Okay, one last kiss, but then it's time for bed. I love you and I'll see you in the morning!"
Encourage:
- "No more stories, let's go back to your room. It's time for bed. Good night!"
- If I'm expressing fear of the dark, try introducing a night light or leaving the door open a crack.
Reflect:
- Do I seem to use the same delay strategies? What might you be able to do to discourage them?
As your child grows...
They will likely outgrow some bedtime delay behaviors, but they will continue to test bedtime boundaries.