Oops, we have a problem!
Here's What To Do
Set up a toy scenario, like two toy figures reaching for the same block or a toy car crashing into another. Say, "Oops! We have a problem!"
Ask your child to describe the problem, saying, "What do you see? What went wrong?" Let them explain in their own words.
Help your child discuss why this was a problem. “Why was this a problem? Was it a big problem or a little problem? What do you think started the problem?”
Discuss with your child how to get help. Say, “If it is a big problem, who can you ask for help? What else can you do?” Act out different choices with the toys. Work through describing the problem and asking for help.
Put PEER Into Action
Pause:
- Find a quiet place to sit. Give your child a big hug.
Engage:
- "What do you do when you have a problem?"
- "What could we do next time to make things fair for everyone?"
Encourage:
- "Wow! You came up with a great way to fix the problem!"
- "Making mistakes is okay, what matters is how we solve them!"
Reflect:
- "What did you learn about recognizing problems today?"
Not quite ready?
Model the problem and how to talk about it first, then invite your child to help next time.
Ready for more?
Try discussing real-life "oops" moments, like spilled water or bumping into someone, using words and actions.
As your child masters this skill...
They will become more confident in recognizing and discussing problems they have with others.