Looking for Attention
Here's What To Do
1
Know that around 6 months old, I may start experimenting with other ways (besides crying) to get your attention. I might yell, smile, move my body, or make other noises.
2
If you can, respond to my requests for attention right away. If you can't help me immediately, call out to me to let me know that you'll be there soon.
3
Try to interpret my thoughts and feelings, and put them into words. This helps me know I've succeeded in getting your attention.
4
Sometimes, I'll look toward you or call for you while I'm playing. A smile, hug, or reassuring words will help me play independently without crying or yelling for attention.
Put PEER Into Action
P
Pause:
- When I try to get your attention, consider what I might be trying to say. I might be saying "Come here!," "Where are you?", or "I am happy to see you!"
E
Engage:
- "I hear you, Amir, one second. I'll be right there after I wash my hands."
- "Oh, you were yelling because you were wondering where everyone was! Here I am!"
E
Encourage:
- "Thank you for letting me know that you were tired of that toy. Let's try a new one."
- If you hear me babbling happily in my crib, let me stay there until I shout out for you. This helps me practice talking, and using a different tone to let you know I need something.
R
Reflect:
- How do I react when you reply to my calls for attention?
As your child grows...
They will use more and more methods to communicate their needs. Eventually, this will include talking!