First Fears
Here's What To Do
1
Notice if I seemed to have developed any fears. Common fears at this age include:
- animals
- vacuum cleaners or other household appliances
- emergency sirens
- the bathtub
- thunderstorms
- loud noises
- dark places
2
Remember that my fears might seem silly or unlikely to your adult brain, but they feel very real to me. I'll feel understood and important if you acknowledge my fears.
3
Try to interpret my fears into simple words and add a reassuring comment.
4
Know that most of my fears will be "just a phase," and as I get older I'll be less afraid.
Put PEER Into Action
P
Pause:
- Notice what situations seem to make me feel scared.
E
Engage:
- Give me a big, reassuring hug when you notice I'm feeling afraid. If I have a lovey or favorite blanket, let me snuggle it.
- Talk about what you think is making me afraid, and confirm that I'm safe. Like: "That's the fire truck siren you hear. It's loud, but it can't hurt you. You are safe here."
E
Encourage:
- Help me avoid or adapt situations that scare me (like using the vacuum when I'm in a different room, or putting a nightlight in my room).
- See if you can reintroduce me to my fear from a new perspective. For example, if I'm afraid of dogs, let me look at books about dogs and play with a stuffed animal dog. Let me watch a dog being walked on a leash at the park. This might help me get over my fear.
R
Reflect:
- What seems to comfort me best when I'm feeling scared?
As your child grows...
They will develop fears of different things, but most of the time they will outgrow these fears.