I Can Do It Myself!
Here's What To Do
Let me be the "boss" sometimes. As long as I'm not hurting myself or others, try to let me be in charge of some things (even if it doesn't make sense, like dipping an apple into ketchup.)
Try to set up our home so I can be independent during daily routines. Place clothes at my height so I can get dressed, put a step stool by the sink, and childproof so I can do tasks independently and safely.
Invite me to help you with household chores. Keep the chores simple and specific.
If I resist your help when it's necessary (like holding your hand while crossing the street), empathize with me but hold the boundary firm. Let me know what I can do instead.
Put PEER Into Action
Pause:
- Take a deep breath. Sometimes letting me try things on my own requires a bit of patience.
Engage:
- "Can you help me set the table? Please put one napkin in front of each chair."
- "You must hold someone's hand while crossing the street. You can hold my hand or daddy's hand."
Encourage:
- Emphasize the things I can do rather than focusing on the things I can't do yet.
- Know that when I say "I do it," I'm not trying to hurt your feelings. It means I feel safe and secure enough to practice my growing sense of independence.
Reflect:
- How do I seem to feel when you let me try something on my own?
As your child grows...
They will insist on doing more and more things independently. With help, they can learn how to do these activities as independently as possible.